While it may seem simple, the notion that you can always change your mind has been a valuable lesson for me. It took me until my 30s to fully appreciate this truth. Now, at 42, I cherish the freedom that comes with it.
So, how did I arrive at this realization? Glad you asked!
Featured image from our interview with Nitsa Citrine.
5 Reasons to Embrace the Freedom to Change Your Mind
This summer, I desperately needed a getaway and yearned for quality time with friends. Life had thrown a lot at me, and I needed my support system outside of Austin. A friend invited me to join her family on vacation on the East Coast, which felt perfect.
However, as time passed, my needs shifted. By the time the trip arrived, the thought of traveling felt overwhelming. Instead, I craved solitude, needing time alone without any company.
Realizing this was jarring. I had committed to a trip, invested in a flight, and didn't want to seem unreliable. Ultimately, I called my friend and explained I wouldn’t be able to make it.
Fortunately, my friend understood that circumstances change. There were no rigid plans besides the trip, making it easier for me to express my needs. It was a refreshing reminder of my ability to change my mind.
This concept, while not revolutionary, is a truly authentic way to live. Here’s why.
To Be True to Yourself
Imagine living life with a rigid mindset, thinking, “I made this choice, so I have to stick with it forever.” That’s daunting.
When we learn, we can do better. This leads to making choices that truly resonate with us.
To Allow for New Opportunities
Perhaps someone upset you, and you decided to cut ties. Maybe they supported something you disagree with. But what if they’ve changed? Allowing yourself the option to reconsider your stance enables growth for everyone involved.
*It’s important to note that there will always be exceptions. You set your own limits.
To Inspire Others to Share Their Truth
Have you ever felt judged for expressing a different opinion in a group? If so, I empathize with you. Thankfully, my friends encourage divergent views, but I’ve felt isolated in other settings.
Conversely, I’ve witnessed how one person sharing a unique perspective can empower others to speak up. Why not be that catalyst yourself?
Remember, you don't have to engage with those who seek to provoke arguments for the sake of it.
To Prioritize What’s Best for You
Five months ago, I decided to eliminate alcohol from my life. What started as a 30-day challenge transformed into a lifestyle change because I felt so great. I even wrote about this decision.
Will I return to drinking? I’m uncertain. But I appreciate the freedom in saying, “Maybe.”
Should I choose to drink again for a special occasion, that decision will be mine alone, unaffected by others' opinions.
My new mantra: I do what's right for me.
Previously, I might have feared returning to alcohol after my declaration. Thoughts like, “What will others think? Have I failed?” would have consumed me. Now, my focus is on making the best decisions for myself, welcoming input from close friends who care.
Being around people who embrace change and prioritize their needs is refreshing.
To Create the Life You Desire
By allowing myself to change my mind, I’m moving away from expectations and the need to please others. What a wonderful realization!
This year has brought about some losses, highlighting life's fragility. The awareness that we have one life encourages me to live authentically. Embracing a flexible mindset has led to personal growth and a deeper connection to my true aspirations.
I recently shifted careers, a decision I hadn’t planned but knew was essential. For years, I felt stuck on one path until a colleague’s perspective prompted me to reconsider. I took the leap into a new job. Without the willingness to change direction, I’d be further from my goals.
One shift, yet it opens doors to where I want to go. I’m excited to see how this mindset continues to unfold for me, and I hope it brings similar growth for you.
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